I’ve wrestled with my response to another part of Wilson’s testosterone-choked comments on women in ministry, part of which — the “ordaining donkeys” part — is quoted in my previous post. That observation of Wilson’s was simply stupid. But in another part of his June 20 “Silly Women” essay, he says something offensive beyond measure about feminists and their “rape culture.” Let’s let the would-be Bishop of Moscow speak for himself:
“At the same time, we don’t want to assume that any position that ticks feminists off must be biblical. That can’t be right—it is far too easy to do. And, as with so many issues, we have to distinguish different levels and layers. If, as have noted, our holy fathers used to listen to wise women in ancient times, this is scarcely an argument for us to listen to silly women now. I might have no problem with Queen Arwen sitting by the fountain, singing a song of Valinor, and yet have a great deal of trouble with a feminist theologian writing with furrowed brow about the privileged hierarchies of rape culture, with the attendant observation that any coitus whatever is inherently colonial, racist, and abusive, especially if both parties have a good time.” Doug Wilson, Blog and Mablog, June 20, 2009
Yep. This man, blossoming into the evangelical world’s newest pop idol, said that feminists obsess about “. . . the privileged hierarchies of rape culture, with the attendant observation that ANY COITUS WHATEVER IS INHERENTLY COLONIAL, RACIST, AND ABUSIVE, ESPECIALLY IF BOTH PARTIES HAVE A GOOD TIME.”
That’s how he characterizes “silly women” and “feminist theologians,” and that’s his joke about how we silly feminist theologians view sex. It’s a terrible joke on so many levels, as would be any joke about “rape culture” and the everyday abusiveness feminists, he posits, find in marital sex. It’s a witty, filthy observation that no real man of God would make, and my response to it, which certainly could include silence, is something that has weighed heavily on me the last couple of days.
But a little dose of ugly reality might be in order here. You see, the “rape culture” he finds so amusing produced a man who raped me in 1980. Yeah. A man took me violently and against my will and did so expecting that neither culture nor law would condemn him. I now am happily married — this is my counter to the “inherently abusive coitus” part. No victim of sexual violence ever confuses it with loving, giving, mutual sexual expression. I know loving sex, and I know rape. It doesn’t take a feminist or a victim of rape to condemn Wilson’s putrid witticisms. They reveal their author’s heart by their stinking rot.
He stands convicted, and not by me but by a Holy God, neither male nor female, who demands account for the use of the gifts the Spirit bestows, as well as account from the men who rob women of their expression of those same gifts.